Reparative therapy: Family acceptance versus family rejection

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Recently, two states in the US, California and New Jersey, have signed legislation to ban reparative therapy (conversion therapy) for minors. Similar trends confirming the unacceptability and potential harmfulness of reparative therapy are on the rise in the UK. The British Medical Association, for example, has called on the National Health Service (NHS) to ban reparative therapy. The UK Council for Psychotherapy regards it as unethical, and practitioners who practice the therapy have been deregulated, meaning they are no longer able to practice. However, there are still many countries, such as Australia, and many US states, that continue to allow this therapy to be used with minors. Parents are continuing to seek out this therapy for their children. This means that family acceptance continues to play a role in the use of reparative therapy. Pink Families explores why family rejection/acceptance is becoming more important for lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) youth, the risks associated with family rejection, how and why some youth enter reparative therapy, and the benefits of family acceptance.

Family rejection of LGB youth and those that are questioning their sexual orientation

Anecdotal reports suggest that LGB youth are coming out at younger ages, as compared to previous generations. Therefore, the impact of family rejection on LGB youth is becoming ever more critical.

Many more youth are coming out while they are still living in their family home – while they are heavily dependent on their family – and before they have access to a wider community that may be able to support them during their coming out process.

Unfortunately, not all families are willing or able to accept their LGB child, sister or brother, or their relative that is questioning their sexual orientation. This lack of acceptance can lead to the individual being rejected by their family.

These rejected youth then face an increased risk of negative outcomes – for example increased health risks. They are eight times more likely to attempt suicide, approximately six times more likely to report high levels of depression, three times more likely to use illegal drugs and three times more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior.

Unfortunately, instead of these behaviors being understood by the family as high-risk reactive behaviors to social stigma and non-acceptance by peers, family and society, the behaviors are sometimes used as additional evidence that there is something wrong with their relative. The behaviors are used as further support for seeking out reparative therapy.

Avoiding family rejection through entering reparative therapy

In order to remain with their family, the LGB youth are then forced to start reparative therapy. Some are forcibly transported to facilities that offer the therapy. However, others choose to start the therapy in order to decrease or avoid individual and family stigma associated with being LGB. Some start for fear of being thrown out of their family home.

These threats are very real for some. LGBT youth are disproportionately represented in foster care, for example. They enter for various reasons, including due to conflict, mistreatment or neglect related to their sexual orientation or gender identity. There is also a disproportionate number of LGBT homeless youth. These youth also report more negative experiences. For example, they are at a greater risk of suicidal ideation, and they report higher levels of victimization, alcohol abuse and survival sex, as compared to their non-LGBT homeless peers.

However, as many youth believe that their family are operating in their best interests and as many don’t want to lose their family, they do what their family requests and they start reparative therapy. Others feel there is nothing wrong with them but they start the therapy anyway as a way of supporting their parents in coming to terms with their sexual and/or gender orientation. Many will do what it takes to try and stay part of their family.

In the video below, Giancarlo Sanguinetti shares his story of receiving reparative therapy and what the experience was like for him. He entered the therapy to help his mother come to terms with his sexual orientation.

The real effects of reparative therapy

However, instead of helping the family, reparative therapy then serves to reinforce strained family relationships and it places the youth at increased risk of negative outcomes.

The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry clarifies that: “There is no medically valid basis for attempting to prevent homosexuality, which is not an illness. On the contrary, such efforts may encourage family rejection and undermine self-esteem, connectedness and caring, important protective factors against suicidal ideation and attempts. Given that there is no evidence that efforts to alter sexual orientation are effective, beneficial or necessary, and the possibility that they carry the risk of significant harm, such interventions are contraindicated.”

The importance of family acceptance

This statement highlights the importance of family acceptance. In fact, LGBT adolescent youth that are accepted by their family do better in terms of their general health and well-being, as compared to those who report that their family rejected them. Family acceptance is associated with higher levels of self-esteem, social support and general health.

Family acceptance is also a protective factor that helps fight off depression, substance abuse, suicidal ideation and suicide attempts. The benefits of family acceptance are clearly important.

Plus, research has shown that even though some parents may react negatively to their child’s initial coming out, family relationships can improve after parents become more aware of and sensitized to the needs and well-being of their children. This means that family acceptance may increase over time and the relationships within the family may improve.

This evidence, and the potential harm and lack of evidence for reparative therapy, have prompted medical and allied health organizations and providers to strongly advocate for professionals to help enable family acceptance of individual sexual and/or gender orientation.

They also recommend a supportive coming out process when the individual is ready to share this information about themselves. Plus, they emphasize that any youth that seeks out therapy should be supported through affirmative rather than reparative therapy.

In the video below, Marie Osmond shares how much she loves her lesbian daughter.

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