The movie Lilting explores the experience of grief and how this can be complicated by not coming out to the family of your loved one. Lilting explores this through the relationship of a Cambodian-Chinese mother, Junn – who is grieving for the death of her son – and her son’s boyfriend, Richard. Although riddled by grief, Richard reaches out to Junn, even though she doesn’t know that Richard was her son’s partner.
Through the lens of the relationship between Richard and Junn, the movie Lilting examines a range of cross-cultural topics. It is an examination of older age, cross-cultural experiences of homosexuality, the issue of small family units that experience the loss of one of their members, sexuality between people living in residential care settings, and the feelings of acute loneliness and isolation that first-generation migrants can experience.
Lilting also explores the dilemma that many LGBT people face: feeling the need to protect your relationship with your parents by avoiding coming out to them, but in the process compromising opportunities for allowing your same-sex partner to become part of your family. The movie also explores a topic that is particularly relevant to many of us given the rapidly aging populations around the world: protecting and looking after aging parents, and the dilemma of working out how best to do this.
Lilting, an intimate portrait of two strangers brought together by the common language of grief
The film is presented by Film London and released in association with BBC Films, Stink, Sums Film & Media.More films on Pink Families
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Directed by: Hong Khaou. Produced by: Dominic Buchanan. Written by: Hong Khaou. Starring: Ben Whishaw, Cheng Pei-pei, Andrew Leung, Morven Christie, Naomi Christie, Peter Bowles. Cinematography: Urszula Pontikos. Production company: Film London Microwave BBC Films Skillset. Release date(s): January 16, 2014 (Sundance Film Festival). Country: United Kingdom. Language: English. Budget: £120,000. Duration: 91 minutes.